Favorite Quotes and Lines from Books

The Fault in our Stars by John Green

"Writing does not resurrect,  it buries."
"Pain is like fabric, the stronger it is, the more it's worth.
"Grief does not change you. It reveals you."

Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul by John Eldredge

"God will come through, God is on the move."
"Beauty is essential to God."
"Nature is not primarily functional, it is primarily beautiful."
"A woman at rest is a woman comfortable in her feminine beauty."
"Failure is man's worst fear, and woman's is abandonment."
"Women dominate and control because they fear their vulnerability."
"Women are beautiful, every single one of us. It is one of the glorious ways that we bear the image of God."

Bitches Principle

I am currently reading a book, Why men love bitches by Sherry Argov. I have taken a few notes and would like to share with you the principles she wrote and well hope that it may help all the women out there who wants to be confident, and just feel that they are more valuable that they think they are.
So here goes:

Principles on How to be the dreamgirl...

Principle #1  Anything a person chases in life runs away.
Principle #2  The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care that much.
Principle #3  A woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has a 100 percent hold on her.
Principle #4  Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call, just to see how you’ll respond.
Principle #5  If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it.
Principle #6  It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt.
Principle #7  Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer.
Principle #8  The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she’s not afraid to be without him.
Principle #9  If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the bitch will prioritize her dignity above all else.
Principles on being the preferred "bitch" than the nice girl
Principle #10 When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her.
Principle #11 Being right on the verge of getting something generates a desire that has to be satisfied.
Principle #12 A man knows which woman will give in to last-minute requests.
Principle #13 Whether you have terms and conditions indicates whether you have options. Almost immediately, you present yourself as a doormat or a dreamgirl.
Principle #14 If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom.
Principle #15 Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent it. Let him give what he wants to give freely; then observe who he is.
Principle #16 A bitch gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then . . . he sets out to trap her in his.
Principle #17 If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind.
Principle #18 Always give the appearance that he has plenty of space. It gets him to drop his guard.
Principle #19 More than anything else, he watches to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent on him.
Principle #20 He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner.

The Candy Store Principle (May not be common to us Asian women, but Im just posting in case...)
Principle #21 If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he’ll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he’ll also take time to appreciate who she is.
Principle #22 Sex and the “spark” are not one and the same.
Principle #23 Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isn’t.
Principle #24 Every man wants to have sex first; whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it.
Principle #25 A man intuitively senses whether sexuality comes from a place of security or from a place of neediness. He knows when a woman is having sex to appease him.
Principle #26 Bad habits are easier to form than good ones, because good habits require conscious effort. Waiting encourages this effort.
Principle #27 If you pull the sexual plug at the last minute, he’ll label you a tease.
Principle #28 If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide.
Principle #29 A quality guy fantasizes about a woman who genuinely loves sex.
Principles that you should always keep in mind...
Principle #30 Any time a woman competes with another woman, she demeans herself.
Principle #31 When there is that undeniable “spark,” there is only one key to the lock.

Dumb like a Fox
Principle #32 Let him think he’s in control. He’ll automatically start doing things you want done because he’ll always want to look like “a king” in your eyes.
Principle #33 When you cater to his ego in a soft way, he doesn’t try to get power in an aggressive way.
Principle #34 When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete.
Principle #35 He’ll let a woman who becomes his doormat pay for dinner on the first couple of dates, but he wouldn’t think of it with his dreamgirl.
Principle #36 The token power position is for public display, but the true power position is for private viewing only. And this is the only one that matters.
Principle #37 If you give him a feeling of power, he’ll want to protect you and he’ll want to give you the world.
Principle #38 When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything.
Principle #39 Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact.
Principle #40 Talking about the “relationship” too much takes away the element of the “unknown” and thus the mystery.
Principle #41 Men respect women who communicate in a succinct way, because it’s the language men use to talk to one another.
Principle #42 When you are always HAPPY; And he is always free to GO; He feels LUCKY.

Some points to ponder:
She trusts her observations and she trusts her instincts.
First Law of Nature - Every Animal for herself.
“You’ve got to know when to keep your mouth shut.”
“Let us never negotiate out of fear.” - John F. Kennedy
When women give themselves away, and become needy...

Principle #43 If you allow your rhythm to be interrupted, you’ll create a void. Then, to replace what you give up, you’ll start to expect and need more from your partner.
Principle #44 Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves.
Principle #45 A woman looks more secure in a man’s eyes when he can’t pull her away from her life, because she is content with her life.
Principle #46 The second a woman works overtime to make herself fit his criteria, she has lowered the standard of that relationship.

Some points to ponder:
* Don’t give him all of your time.
“Standing on a street corner waiting for no one is power.” When you don’t wait for anyone, it’s because you don’t need anyone.
* When you approach men this way, any man who steps up to the plate will have to meet you at your level.
* A man will respect a woman who is clear and direct about what she needs, without waffling or secondguessing herself If a man is late for a date, for example, the bitch will become annoyed because she is inconvenienced.
* Annoyance is different than becoming emotional.

Your true power, therefore, is marked by:
> Realizing what your rhythm is, and moving to it
> Knowing who you are, and what you will or will not accept
> Having the ability to make a decision without secondguessing yourself afterward, and without being talked out of how you feel
> Having self-control, because true power is the control you have over yourself.

Principle #47 You jump through hoops any time you repeatedly make it very obvious you’re giving your “all.”
Principle #48 You have to keep from being sucked down into quicksand. Unless you maintain control over yourself, the relationship is doomed.
Principle #49 Jumping through hoops often has a negative outcome: He sees it as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it, too. But when you stay just outside his reach, he’ll stay on his best behavior.
Principle #50 The nice girl gives away too much of herself. when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself.
Principle #51 The relationship may not be right for you if you find yourself jumping through hoops. When something is right, it will feel easier and much more effortless.

Take note of these:
> Once you accidentally step into that arena, you have to win him back by showing him that you won’t wait. You have a life. You have other priorities, some of which come before him.
> The bitch is not governed by fear of losing a man, because she knows the real price to pay is when she loses herself.

The next set of principles will be posted on here soon. =) See you all!

** Disclaimer: No intentions to reproduce contents of the book illegally. I just want to share something as good as what I was given access to, thought all women might need to be able to value themselves more.

Five People You Meet in Heaven - Quotes

This is yet another great book that I love from the author Mitch Albom. While reading this movie, I was already thinking about the people I want to meet in heaven... This book got me to think... of people whose life may have changed because of me, and that I did not even know about it, and vice versa. 


Enjoy! 



"People often belittle the place where they were born. But heaven can be found in the most unlikely corners and heaven itself has many steps."


"This is the greatest gift God can give you: to understand what happened in your life. To have it explained. It is the peace you have been searching for."


"There are no random acts, that we are all connected. That you can no more separate one life from another than you can separate a breeze from the wind."


"Fairness, does not govern life and death. If it did, no good person would ever die young."


"Strangers are just family you have yet to know."


"It is because the human spirit knows deep down that all lives intersect that death doesn’t just take someone when it misses someone else."


"No life is a waste. The only times we waste is the time we spend thinking we are alone".


"That’s the thing. Sometimes when you sacrifice something precious you’re not really losing it. You’re just passing it on to someone else."


"But our eyes are different, what you see ain’t what I see."


"You have peace when you make it with yourself."


"We move through places everyday that would never have been if not for those who came before us. Our workplaces, where we spend so much time, we often think they began with our arrival – that’s not true."


"Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade. And the harm we do, we do to ourselves."

For One More Day - Quotes

Sharing another set of the quotes i got from the book I read. This book is written by Mitch Albom, the same author of the book that was made into a movie, Tuesdays with Morrie. 




"Going back to something is harder than you think."


"I did what mattered to me... i was a mother"


"You have to care as much about yourself on the way down as you did on the way up."


"But there’s a story behind everything. How a picture got on a wall. How a scar got on your face. Sometimes the stories are simple, and sometimes they are hard and heartbreaking. But behind all your stories is always your mother’s story, because hers is where yours begins."

The Pretenders - Quotes

I bought this book because of a project in school many years back. Our assignment was to finish a book - novel (from a Filipino author) and provide our comments through a term paper. I do not know what made me choose this book, but maybe because of the Title " The Pretenders" that caught my attention. I am glad that I bought this book... and that I am sharing with you the quotes, or lines that I love from the book, that is very meaningful. 

From the Book "The Pretenders" by F. Sionil Jose


"In those days, my only thoughts were of survival... all that occupied me were how to finish school, get a job so that i could earn something to keep myself alive. And keeping alive meant 3 meals a day, a roof over my head that did not leak, a pair of shoes, clean clothes. It is all changed now and those objectives to which i addressed myself in the past are no longer my objective. Now i have raised my objectives a little higher. No one really needs 6 meals a day or 2 dozen pair of shoes, a man can eat only so much, wear so much. so what do i want out of life? I want to be justified..."


"Whatever i do in my heart, i want to do it right, I want to say i did it because it had to be done. I may be proved wrong, but it does not matter, at least to my own self, I must be true. Just a simple fact of human wanting for himself the integrity that everyone desires in his deepest thoughts, in his fondest dreams."


" It is a wonderful institution, but never marry for any other reason except love. Then you won't have regrets. Somehow every problem seems easy to solve. Money is one of the easiest problems to overcome, its when something happens to your inner self - that's something money can't solve."


"I only wish that someday i will be capable of doing something heroic, a deed which would ennoble me not only to myself but most of all to her who has accepted me for what i am. If i could be sure, however, even for just one instant that she chose me because she loved and respected me, then I would know that there is at least one human being whom i have some value, otherwise it is a bleak world indeed where i have paused and the sooner I leave it the better."


"A person is part of a clan, a race. And knowing this, you wonder where you came from and who preceded you; you wonder if you are strong. As you know these who lived before you were strong and then you realized that there is a durable thread that ties you to a past you did not create but which created you. Then you know that you have to be sure about who you are and if you are not sure or if you do not know, you have to go back, trace those who hold the secret to your past. The search may not be fruitful; from this moment of awareness, there is nothing more frustrating that the belief that you have been meaningless."


"A man who knows himself can live with his imperfections; he knows instinctively that he is a part of a wave that started from unnavigable expanses."


"Sometimes you look at yourself in the mirror, any mirror, and you wonderwhy those nose looks as it does, or those eyes - what is behind them, what depths can they reach? Your flesh, your skin, your lips, - you know that the face which you behold is not yours alone, but it is already something which belongs to those who love it, to your family and all those who esteem you."

Tuesday's with Morrie - Mitch Albom

Below are my favorite lines from the book of Mitch Albom - Tuesday's with Morrie. I have found a way to read this book when the movie was advised to be watched by our teacher in college. Since Then, I have loved this literature as much as I love reading! Its like books never existed without an author named Mitch Albom. 

Here are the quotes:

Accept what you are able to do and what you are not able to do.

Accept the past as past without denying or discarding it.

Don't assume that it is too late to get involved.

Love Wins. Love always wins.

The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love and to let it come in.

Love is a series of pulls back and forth, you want to do one thing but you are bound to do something else. Something hurts you, yet you shouldn't. You take certain things for granted even when you should never take anything for granted.

Love is the only rational act.

Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live...

Love each other or perish.

So Many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half asleep, even when they are chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others. Devote yourself to creating something that gives purpose and meaning.

You see, you closed your eyes. That was the difference. Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel, and if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them too, even when you're in the dark. Even when you are falling.

Love is how to stay alive, even after you are gone.

Death ends a life, not a relationship.

People are only mean when they are threatened.

Everyone is in such a hurry, people haven't found meaning in their lives, so they're running all the time looking for it. They think the next car, the next house, the next job... then they found those things are empty too... and they keep running.

Learn to forgive yourselves and to forgive others.

The loving relationships we have, the universe around us, we take these things for granted.

Don't cling to things, because everything is impermanent.

If you don't have the support and love and caring and concern that you get from a family, you don't have much at all.

If you are trying to show off for the people at the top, forget it, they will look down at you anyhow. And you are trying to show off for the people at the bottom, forget it, they will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere. only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone.

What we take, we must replenish.

In the beginning, of life, when we are infants, we need to survive and at the end of life, you need others to survive. In between, we need others as well.

Don't let go too soon, but don't hang on too long.

Be compassionate, and take responsibility, for each other. If we only learned those lessons, this world would be so much better a place.

Forgive yourself before you die, then forgive others.

This disease is knocking at my spirit, but it will not get my spirit.

You need to make peace with yourself and everyone around you.

Death is as natural as life. Its part of the deal we made.

It is the most incredible feeling. the sensation of accepting what was happening, being at peace. 

When you're in bed, you're dead.

Love is different. Love is when you are concerned about someone eles's situation ad you are about your own.

You are not a wave, you are part of the ocean.

As long as we can love each other. and remember we can die without really going away. all the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there. You live on - in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here.

The Alchemist - Quotes

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho - one of the few books that I have read more than once! This is probably one of the best books for me. And that is why I am posting the title and sharing to everyone the quotes i have gotten from this book. =)

Here Goes... Hope you like them!

It (destiny) is what you have always wanted to accomplish. Everyone, when they are young, knows what their destiny is. At that point in their lives, everything is clear and everything is possible. They are not afraid to dream, and to yearn for everything they would like to see happen to them in their lives. But, as time passes, a mysterious force begins to convince them that it will be impossible for them to realize their destiny.

Love never keeps a man from pursuing his destiny.

It's the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary; only wise men are able to understand them.

To realize one's destiny is a person's only real obligation.

If you start out by promising what you don't even have yet, you'll lose your desire to work toward getting it.

When each day is the same as the next, it's because people fail to recognize the good things that happen in their lives every day that the sun rises.

Don't forget that everything you deal with is only one thing and nothing else.

I'm like everyone else -- I see the world in terms of what I would like to see happen, not what actually does.

You must always know what it is that you want.

Making a decision was only the beginning of things. When someone makes a decision, he is really diving into a strong current that will carry him to places he had never dreamed of when he first made the decision.

Because I don't live in either my past or my future. I'm interested only in the present. If you can concentrate always on the present, you'll be a happy man. .... Life will be a party for you, a grand festival, because life is the moment we're living right now.

"Why do we have to listen to our hearts?" "Because, wherever your heart is, that is where you'll find your treasure."

Every search begins with beginner's luck. And every search ends with the victor's being severely tested.

When you possess great treasures within you, and try to tell others of them, seldom are you believed.

Don't give in to your fear. If you do, you won't be able to talk to your heart.

Life really is generous to those who pursue their destiny.

Closing Cycle by Paulo Coelho

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end.  If we insist on
staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the
meaning of the other stages we have to go through.

Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters.

Whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave the past the moments
of life that have finished.  Did you lose your job?  Has a loving
relationship come to an end?  Did you leave your parents' house?  Gone to
live abroad?  Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?

You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.  You can tell
yourself you won't take another step until you find out why certain things
that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just
like that.

But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved:  your
parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister,
everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on
with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even
when we try to understand the things that happen to us.  What has passed
will not return:  we cannot forever be children, late adolescents, sons that
feel guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night relive an
affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of
coming back.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.  That is
why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs,
move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you
have at home.  Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the
invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts and getting rid of
certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take
their place.

Let things go.  Release them.  Detach yourself from them.  Nobody plays this
life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose.  Do not
expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated,
your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.  Stop turning on
your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the
one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss:  that is only
poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are
broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions
that are always put off waiting for the ideal moment.  Before a new chapter
is begun, the old one has to be finished:  tell yourself that what has
passed will never come back.  Remember that there was a time when you could
live without that thing or that person.  Nothing is irreplaceable.  A habit
is not a need.  This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it
is very important.

Closing cycles.  Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply
because that no longer fits your life.  Shut the door, change the record,
clean the house, shake off the dust.  Stop being who you were, and change
into who you are.




May we all find it in our hearts to move on, to find our happiness and leave every hurtful things in our past.. move forward... towards what could really make us happy. =)

For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.
Romans 8:18 

"But one thing I do: forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus" Philippians 3:14